Relationships Are Based On Commitments
Lately, these challenging questions have been at the back of my mind, What is the importance of relationships in our lives; How do relationships give structure to our life? How do they shape the very fold of society we live in? and how we as human beings are constrained to it?
I would like to challenge you to think of one utmost accomplishment in your life that was not the result of making a primary commitment to someone. I doubt that you will find the number is very small. Well, you see that making and keeping commitments are foundational in our lives and especially in a relationship as T.D. Jakes quotes it,
“Without commitment, nothing happens.”
Commitment simply means the quality of being dedicated and it’s extremely important and powerful. I say it is powerful because they influence how you think, sound, and act which then feeds the perception engine of what others think about you. Moreover, if you’ll approach someone in a halfhearted hope or manner, the perception that you would be generating will definitely not be in your favor.
Now, if we talk about the true meaning of commitment in a relationship, well trust me there is no rocket science to it. True commitment simply means that you are trying harder as commitment is an act, not a word, that you are looking for solutions when faced with problems and you don’t consider quitting as an option.
However, there are two aspects of a relationship in a person’s life. First being the relationship you acquire since your birth such as being a son, daughter, brother, sister, and likewise. The second the relationship you opt for yourself. Let’s take for example being someone’s friend, husband, or wife. The reason to highlight these aspects is to tell you that the relationship that we opt for ourselves requires more commitment on both ends. Commitment in its essence being steadfast in your role and firm on your decision because anything that you’ll do will affect the relationship. Hence, one should set aside a list of principles to certain relationships and should abide by them to stay committed.
Although commitment is not dependent on the relationship but the relationship is dependent on commitment. They are just a set of rules that you make for yourself to comply with. In retrospect, if you look at the past generation and its people, we can see them share this distinct characteristic. Those people were true caregivers and providers for the family and it was their commitment that leads to the present world we live in today.
In addition, you need to understand that commitment is the only way you can enjoy a relationship with someone because it will show the real you and your true care for the other person. In fact, when you are committed to people who are truly important to you, the result is that your relationship will improve and you’ll be more successful in achieving your goals.
Now on the other hand if we say that if relationships are not based on commitments then the relationships are devastated very badly. To reason my point, if there is no pillar or foundation on which it is built then how can it prevail for long? We can see the results in the form of broken marriages, children disowning their parents, breakups, and friends parting ways. Not only this as the social life of an individual becomes imbalanced it's not too late that the personal life is affected as well as a person starts to facing depression, anxiety, dissatisfaction, constant overthinking. Moreover, according to a recent study, it is said that the majority of the youth take towards intoxicants after a separation or after a relationship breakup. Suicides are another big issue regarding this. To conclude these points relationships without commitments have a severe impact on people’s lives.
To summarize, all in all, it's safe to say that commitment is foremost essential for any relationship. Hence, it's the individual who gets to decide the ground rules for the commitments and live by them.